You are about to embark on the beginning of your career. I wanted to share some things I’ve learned through experience to “put in your rucksack” as you start BOLC, Pre-Ranger, and beyond.
These don’t just apply to getting your Ranger tab. They’re some words of encouragement and wisdom that hopefully, you can instill without having to relearn them in your career. Best of luck in your future endeavors.
- Remember why you joined the Army. A Medal of Honor recipient once said that “it’s not because of how much you hate the enemy, but because of how much you love your fellow Soldiers.” Don’t ever forget that it’s all about the people, especially the ones you’re responsible for. You take care of your Soldiers, and they’ll take care of you (Read: The Men, The Mission, and Me if you need someone who knows to elaborate).
- Be a good dude. The “good dude theory” sounds like a laid-back, informal phrase, but it’s one of the best compliments you can get from your peers, superiors, and subordinates alike. How you can be a “good dude”: be confident but not cocky, be strong but not overbearing, be a leader but also be a listener, put the heavy object in your rucksack that no one else wants to carry, let your Ranger buddy sleep 15 minutes past the time you were supposed to wake him up for fireguard, treat everything as a game of survivor-but unlike the TV show, it’s not about being the “king of the hill” it’s about how many people you can carry with you to the top. Combat is a team sport.
- Be the moral compass. Your Soldiers will expect it and ultimately respect it. When your radar goes off, take action, say something, be the LEADER, and take charge of whatever situation needs to be addressed, NOW. (It wasn’t all rhetoric that was being spouted at West Point or in ROTC. There’s a reason why some curriculum has stood the test of time, and why quotes are carved into stone.) (See: memorials of old dead guys).
- Trust your instincts. Go with your gut. Listen to your conscience and trust the voice in your head; especially the things happening (or are about to happen) making the hair on your neck stand up. You MUST be responsive to that natural instinct. It may be the sign of your unit assuming too much risk in training or may be the moment right before an ambush. (Think about that crack block in football you knew about right before it happened that your mind saw before your eyes). Use your head and common sense. There are times to be a strong Ranger, but it’s typically best to be a smart Ranger.
- Be Joe Cool on the radio. Regardless of the situation, whether it be getting yelled at by a Ranger Instructor or you’ve got live rounds cracking over your head, think about what needs to be communicated, take a deep breath… and then key the hand mic. Confidence is not instilled in your formation with an excited tone of voice. Nobody likes a screamer or a fast talker on the net.
- You will fail, make mistakes, screw up, and feel embarrassed at times. Get over it. We all do. How do you recover? Do you hang your head in shame and roll over and die, or do you put that much more effort into reaching your end state? The choice is up to you. (Read: Roberts Ridge)
- Losses will come; nothing cuts to the core more than that. Here’s how you overcome it: “The soldier who has died due to the failure of his officer is a crime before God. So study hard young lieutenant. Prepare yourself well. Burn the midnight oil so that in your old age you will not look down at your hands to find his blood-red upon them.” –General Patton… it’s the only way to overcome blame, survivor’s guilt, and the ability to lay your exhausted head on a pillow at night. You should be at peace knowing you trained yourself and your Soldiers as hard as you could, and were as prepared as possible at the moment.
- Focus on the basics. Do all the little things right. There’s always a tendency to chase shiny objects, add too much onto the calendar, and to compete with your peers, but at the end of the day, if your Soldiers can do all the basics right, you have a foundation to build off of. Otherwise, your unit will never have a start point or baseline to go back to when you falter. Execute them with repetition, retrain until it’s right, and enforce the standards required to accomplish the mission without cutting corners. (During Pre-Ranger Read: Ranger School: No Excuse Leadership)
- Be quick to give credit to subordinates when superiors want to praise your formation, but be the first to accept responsibility when things don’t go your way. Own it, deal with it, and learn from it, warranted or not. Life’s not fair, and neither is war or the way the Army is run. No whining, no excuses. Learn from the setbacks, use them to build grit, and propel you forward.
- Find someone as strong-willed and optimistic (or more) than you are, snap link into that person, and become best friends. Hold each other accountable, don’t let each other slack, let iron sharpen iron, and work together to reach your common goals. Some of my best friends (and some of the most successful classmates I know) are the ones I went to IOBC and Ranger School with. And bonds like that pick up right where they left off years later, in garrison, out on the town, or in a dangerous place overseas under night vision. Nothing can replace shared hardship in training before you share a foxhole. (Read: The Long Gray Line)
- Servant leadership will serve you well. Serve chow to the men, eat last, be the first one to the office, counsel your Soldiers, and speak the truth to the in love. They want your feedback, good or bad, so they know where they stand and how they can improve. Then tell them how they can get better, or personally work with them to get them to the next level. PT with your Soldiers, shoot with them, burn their shit in the patrol base. (See: Jesus in the Bible)
- Get to know your troops. Time is always our most precious commodity. Visit them in the guard tower, get them to talk about home, and write letters to their families. Ultimately, you have to understand everyone is motivated in different ways. They were raised differently, come from different backgrounds, and respond to different types of leadership. It’s not your subordinate’s job to adapt to your leadership style; it’s your job to know what approach reaches each individual in the appropriate manner. This isn’t easy, and with everything else, it takes time.
- Have fun. You set the tone for your organization. Yeah, everybody loves to talk about the guy who’s “harder than woodpecker lips” but the Army doesn’t always have to suck. It’s your job to motivate your Soldiers, find out what makes them tick, and redirect that energy towards mission accomplishment.
Take care of yourself, especially your mind and your feet. The first 13 points make this tough to do, and I failed at this miserably. Start paying attention to this now so that when you’re 31 (or 39) it’s as easy to roll out of bed as when it was when you were 21. Unfortunately, I never listened to this advice, so do yourself a favor and learn from me on this one. Sometimes you have to do a bit more than “take a knee and drink water.” Talk to somebody, go to physical therapy, do more than pop pills and try to “suck it up.”
- Listen to your senior NCOs. They won’t lead you astray as a collective brain trust. They know if you fail, they fail. The good ones will NEVER let this happen. But also, don’t be afraid of them. You’re still the Leader but remember the reference earlier about the team sport concept. I didn’t put this low on the list to minimize its importance but rather saved it as a “best for last” lesson.
- Alcohol will not solve your problems. I’ve seen more people ruin their career over this than probably anything else. It leads to bad decisions. If you drink, exercise in moderation. I could’ve used this advice more than once in many different settings.
- Remember that there’s always an enemy of the United States that’s training and plotting to kill you, your Soldiers, and the freedoms they hate about America. The enemy never goes on R&R, never has mid-tour leave, never PCS’s hardly ever sees his family, and would never have mercy on you. Never let HIS determination outweigh yours and be the tipping point in the battle. Burn the midnight oil. A wise SF officer once told me, “War is 10% combat and 90% everything else, but you can never lose that 10%.”
- No matter how successful you are in your career, your family should be a priority. When the music stops and you end your Army career, all you’ll be left with is a shadow box with a flag and a ribbon rack. The two things you should truly strive to maintain are your family and your reputation.
- Don’t ever try to “go it alone.” Remember that you always have a host of people that love and support you, regardless of the outcomes. In specific order, God, Spouse, Family, and Friends will get you through anything. Spiritual wellness has been one of the things that got me to this point in my life and career – although it took me a while to figure this one out. When life gets hard, you’ve always got someone there, whether it be God, your Ranger buddy, your spouse, your classmate, or close air support. When you need it, lift up your concerns in prayer, pick up a phone and call a friend, or key the hand mic and call for fire . . .
- Embrace change. In the Army, change is the only constant. Strive to be agile and adaptable, and have a flexible mind. Don’t be the one who overreacts when the plan is altered, a FRAGO gets dropped or the conditions on the ground shift. Murphy will show up, the enemy has a vote, and the “fog of war” will set in. Look at this challenge as another opportunity to grow and overcome an obstacle. If you are capable of rolling with the punches and accept that change is inevitable, your career of “Plan B’s” will be a lot more enjoyable, and you’ll avoid becoming jaded due to uncontrollable circumstances. Perspective is everything – adapt and overcome.
- When you know you’ve hit the sweet spot for training, leading, and living… fire for effect!
These are some of the BIG ROCKS that should save you some heartache and pain in BOLC, Ranger School, and your career.
Rangers Lead The Way!
PS- This message is unclassified, so feel free to share it with your buddies if you want. There’s no “list of works cited” in a patrol base, collaboration is optimal.
This first appeared in The Havok Journal on July 4, 2015. I originally wrote this for my brother-in-law back in 2014 as he began his own journey as an Army officer. ***Gender is not a discriminator to be a successful leader – I left some of the male pronouns in this article to reflect the original writing.
Mike Kelvington grew up in Akron, Ohio. He is an Infantry Officer in the U.S. Army with experience in special operations, counterterrorism, and counterinsurgency operations over 14 deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan, including with the 75th Ranger Regiment. He’s been awarded the Bronze Star Medal with Valor and two Purple Hearts for wounds sustained in combat. He is a graduate of the United States Military Academy at West Point, a Downing Scholar, and holds master’s degrees from Princeton, Liberty, and Regent Universities. The views expressed on this website are his own and do not necessarily reflect those of the U.S. Army or DoD.
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