I wrote this back in 2017 - When my youngest was on his first deployment, mirroring his older brother's choices - (although upping the ante from 11B Continue Reading
Every October I Let My Sons Go to War
October developed a deeper meaning for me over the years. It’s been the time in my family for deployment goodbyes—usually phrased as “See you later. I Continue Reading
Pain Changes People
Pain changes people. The thing about this statement, aside from the fact that it smacks of reality... is that it leaves it up to you to reflect on Continue Reading
Our Brains Save the Day
When I think back over my life -- at all the times I've felt like I’d reached the point of utter defeat, that I could absolutely not go one step Continue Reading
The Day God Sent Me a Dead Deer
William Faulkner once said, “The past is never dead.” Correct.As long as we’re alive, the past keeps showing up—because it remains an active force in Continue Reading
In The Darkness We Can Still Find Hope
Last January I began working with a woman who struggled mightily throughout our sessions, but who nevertheless continued to meet with me. After she Continue Reading
The Truth That Sets Us Free is the One We Fear the Most
There is something vital about Truth. Truth doesn’t care if it’s good, bad, or indifferent. It doesn’t care if it’s a terrible truth—the kind that Continue Reading
Each Year It Matters
Each year it matters - it feels important to recognize and connect with our history and our grief on the anniversary days. I have no wish to wallow Continue Reading
Today Might be the Day My Son Dies
You may find this interesting. When my son returned from his first deployment to Iraq in 2005, I didn’t cry. Even as I watched him walk into the Continue Reading
Harlow Shut Down for Days
There are times when I'm not a very big fan of the human race. I joke that I'm no social butterfly. Not really a joke though. It’s not about Continue Reading